Fall Hair Styles – Women Over Forty

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Seasons change, and this can really take a toll on our hair. During the summer, I can pretty much wash and go, but when Fall comes around, the process is a bit more challenging. The Fall elements can be rough on our hair due to the mixture of humidity, heat, and cold.

The texture of your hair depends on the hair’s cuticle layer. All hair has this protective outer layer that is almost scale-like. If the scales are flat, the hair feels smooth. When scales are raised, the texture is rough. Some other factors for dryness are chemical treatments, heated tools, and lack of moisture. No worries though. This can all be fixed with the right hair products and drinking lots of water.

After forty, is when I began to change hairstyles with the seasons. Not only does this keep things fresh and new, but it’s also my way of embracing the change in weather. I love the warmth of summer, and all the festivities that come with that. The beach, the pool, the festivals, and backyard barbecues, just to name a few. It has always been my favorite time of year!

I do like all the seasons, but I seemed to get depressed every year when Autumn came about. Truth is, I still do, until I get a new hairstyle, that is. A great hair cut can not only change how you look, but also change your perspective. Fall hair styles for women over forty are fun, flirty, and loaded with layers.

Layers, Layers, and More Layers

I’ve never been one to fuss with my hair a lot. During my youthful days, I would cut it once and for the next 3 or 4 months, just let it grow. Sick it in a pony tail or tie it in a bun, and always ready to have some fun! After forty, is when I decided to play with style. I cut it short, and added some layers for a new-look. What I didn’t expect, was the new outlook that came with it!

My whole appearance was transformed for the better, and I looked about ten years younger. Was very exciting! Cutting off all those dead ends brought new life to my hair and face. Softer, healthier feel, and so much easier to manage, made me feel like a new person all together. What makes it so manageable are those layers! I never cared for them in my twenties or thirties. I just wore my hair long and straight, so you can imagine my surprise to find the layers brought new life to not only my hair, but my perspective as well.

I always thought that having layers meant I would have to blow dry and style my hair for hours on a regular basis in order for it to look good. After forty, the opposite is true. Our hair texture changes as we get older, but that doesn’t need to be a bad thing. It’s tougher now, but I use a lot of conditioner and wash it less. This helps keep it soft, and the layers give it a boost. My hair actually got curlier as I aged, and the layers just enhance those curly locks. Now I am all about shorter hair with layers during the Fall and Winter months for a few reasons:

  • Keeps it from going flat, or having hat head.
  • Easier to manage. Just a quick blow dry with hair upside down, then just flip upwards and you have body, bounce and style.
  • Frames the facial features you want to accentuate.
  • Long layers work best for me. I can shorten the length, but keep the layers long.
  • Shorter hair is easier to wear with sweaters, scarfs, and coats. So I like layers with my layers.

Blow Drying Tips

You want to be careful with your just washed hair, and gently squeeze water out with a towel, as scrubbing and rubbing can be damaging to the hair. Then you can air dry or wrap the towel loosely around your head to absorb any excess moisture, while you get ready. More tips:

  • For dry hair, add a small amount of leave-in conditioner to seal the cuticle layer and add moisture before wrapping in a towel.
  • Prep your hair before you turn that blow-dryer on by adding a primer for quicker drying time, and will also protect your hair from the heat. I like Redkin Pillow Proof, but there are several to choose from. Just ask your stylist which is best for you if you’re feeling unsure.
  • Start with a quick, rough dry by just using your fingers to lift the hair away from the scalp while pointing the blow-dryer at the roots.
  • Create volume by lifting hair to opposite sides and continue to blow dry from the roots only. Then flip to the other side and repeat. You can still just use your fingers for lifting, tousling, and scrunching.
  • For a more controlled style, just section the hair off with a clip and blow dry hair with a brush from scalp to ends, while lifting hair up.
  • For faster drying time, use an iconic dryer and brush, rather than ceramic or tourmaline. Iconic dryers emit negative ions that break down water, and create smoother, sleeker hair with no static.
  • For straight hair, always use the concentrator attachment and always direct the heated air downward on the hair strands to prevent frizz.
  • For curly hair, use the diffuser and gently scrunch curls to prevent frizz.

Darker, Richer Color

Now that you’ve found the right cut, you might want to take it to the next level and really sport a fun, new-look by adding some color. Fall is the perfect time of year to play with darker, warmer, shades. However, I wouldn’t do any drastic changes with color. I just go a shade or two darker. Preferably, one shade darker at a time, or add a touch of red to the color you already have. Reddish brown for brunettes or strawberry blonde for lighter hair shades. Maybe even a nice auburn color for Fall?

Just remember, dark colors like red or black are hard to remove. If you go too dark of a shade, bleach is the only way to remove it. That is why I say, nothing too drastic with color. But as our tan begins to fade, we can still brighten our appearance by adding some color to our hair. Blondes can always add some low lights with darker hues, and dark hair colors look great with added highlights this time of year. I just go from medium reddish brown to a dark reddish brown.

My Favorite Hair Product

My number one secret to keeping hair, soft, shiny, and smooth is Organic Root Stimulator Olive Oil Sheen Spray by ORS. I love olive oil for so many reasons, but nothing else compares when it comes to nourishing my hair!

I use coconut oil right from the jar on my face and body as a moisturizer, but for my hair, I prefer Ors Organic Root Stimulator Olive Oil in a spray can. It really depends on the texture of your hair, but there have lotions, oils, and sprays made with olive oil and specifically designed for hair. The spray is lighter, which works for me. The others are heavier and would be best for extremely course, dry, hair. So, if your hair is really thirsty, the oil might be the way to go.

I just spray it directly onto the roots and hair before bedtime, and brush my hair thoroughly to make sure it is evenly distributed. The next day, I just wash and go! My hair is soft, shiny, and still has lots of body even though I color it regularly, like every three weeks. This can be damaging because of all the chemicals, and that is why I take precautions anyway I can. Try it!

Wrap it Up

I hope reading this has helped you in some way. Fall style for women after forty is all about the hair! Get rid of those dry ends with the right haircut. Add some volume by adding layers. Find the right products to keep your hair smooth, shiny, and frizz free. Play with colors by going a shade darker, and lift your spirits in time for the holidays!

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Life After Forty – New Beginning For Women

As women, we are programmed to dread turning forty. I believe it has something to do with our biological clock ticking away inside of us, which might also explain why men are still playful at this age and unaffected by time until they hit 60! I know a few women who decided to have a baby at forty. We will do anything to keep us feeling young, but having a baby does not exactly guarantee this. In fact, it may have the opposite effect. Still, it’s a turning point, and life after forty for women is a time for new beginnings.

Think about it. We spent our twenties exploring new possibilities with fascination and endless energy. Our thirties were filled with uncertainty in just about every area of life. We made choices that we now live with. Whether they were good or bad, doesn’t matter as long as we can accept that we made those decisions and own up to them. At least we can say we’ve been there, done that! So now, we know what works and what doesn’t and have a much clearer understanding of our likes and dislikes. Unfortunately, we can’t just hit the rewind button and get a do-over, but we can make changes and in a way, it’s like starting over.

Renew Yourself

butterfly dress
Photo by Michael Micheletti

Like I mentioned earlier, we now know more of what we like and don’t like. The key is to focus on what we like, what accomplishes we made, what went right and continue to explore those ideas! Appreciate the good times and focus on creating more of those, while leaving all your regrets behind you. They are in the past, and have no purpose here and now. Truth is, what we think about, we bring about. So keep your thoughts positive and be clear about what you want while taking steps every day towards achieving your goal or goals.

If you should find yourself thinking about what you dislike, that’s fine too. Use these thoughts to discover what needs to change. Whatever makes you feel sad or unhappy needs to go! Life is too short to live with regrets. Life after forty can be empowering as long as you hold onto the belief that you can renew yourself and re-create the life you always wanted. It’s not too late. It’s never too late. We no longer have to live with our mistakes, because we can change them. We can change our minds and adopt a healthy attitude that serves us as easily as we can change our clothes or hair style.

Finding Your Style

Change is going to happen, that you can be sure of. Nothing stays the same, and that’s actually a good thing. How boring would life be without changes? The key is to make those changes yourself, as much as possible. Otherwise, change will just happen to you, and you might not like it all!

I’ve always enjoyed make overs. Whether it be myself, or other people. I like to see how different styles can have a dramatic effect in one’s appearance and attitude. Especially when they find the right style that aligns with their personality. It really can make all the difference, but for a woman, it is an essential part of life after forty. Your body has changed, your hair structure, your skin, even your teeth have changed. Now it’s time to roll with the changes!

I like to start from the top and work my way down. So I begin with the hair, especially since I no longer have time to fuss with it. Getting the right cut that shapes your face, while getting rid of those dead ends is the greatest gift a girl can give herself. However, it is crucial that you don’t rush the process and risk having bad hair days until it grows out and you can start all over again. Take your time with this and get it right. You will be so happy to wake up knowing you can be ready in minutes, without all the fuss! Here are some keys to finding the perfect cut:

  • Know the shape of your face. You might be round, oval, or heart shaped.
  • Find celebrities that have the same shape, and features as you have. Don’t kid yourself though. Be truthful or maybe ask a friend or family member for a reality check.
  • Look through magazines or the internet and find styles your chosen celebrity has already tried, and choose the one you like best. Celebrities change thier hair styles often, so you should have a nice selection.
  • Use a stylist that you can trust. Your hair stylist should be considered your friend. If you don’t already have one that you are comfortable with, seek one out. Ask for referrals from friends or co-workers that have great hair. Who do they use?
  • Bring a picture. It’s hard to describe what you want done, and can easily be misinterpreted. It has happened to me a lot! Having a picture of the style you want says it all and eliminates all the confusion.
  • Be nice! Ask for his or her professional opinion and let them feel they are trusted and most importantly, appreciated. We all do our best work when we feel appreciated.

Stay True to Yourself

It is true that beauty comes from within. Thanks to my Grandma, I have always known this to be true since I was a young teen. She would tell me it doesn’t matter how much make-up you apply. “If you’re ugly on the inside, that is all people will see.” Somehow, she knew I stole the make-up, and the lesson was clear that stealing would make me ugly, so I stopped! I am proud to say, there is nothing I want badly enough that I would steal to get it. Nothing!

On the upside, you can be beautiful without even wearing make-up, if you choose. Being pure in your thoughts and in your heart, shines a light through you that people can’t help but notice and will automatically be drawn to you in a respectful manner. A simple act of kindness, or even a smile can go a long way. The more you can achieve this, the better you will feel and look! We all look better with a smile. It is the number one anti-aging ingredient for both men and women.

Fitness is Key

Women running
Fitness is Key

That being said, the best way to combat negative forces and keep our focus on healthy, positive, actions is to exercise. This doesn’t need to be a chore, though most of us do feel this way. Just thirty minutes a day, or at least three times a week, can change your outlook, as well as your appearance for the better. I promise! It is impossible to feel depressed after a work-out. There are so many ways you can get the excercise you need, and in time, you will find it enjoyable. Especially when you begin seeing results. It’s all about finding the right program for you. Doing something you enjoy, makes it more likely for you to follow through and stick with it. Here are a few ideas:

  • Dancing. Take classes with your partner or alone in your living room. Who cares! If you enjoy dancing, then dance thirty minutes a day.
  • Yoga. This is my number one pick. I love it, though it was tough in the beginning. I was sore, but it still felt great because I knew it was working. Now I am so grateful I didn’t give up. I am much more flexible, and my aches and pains are less. I can bend more easily and feel less stressed about everything. Yoga can be done from home, in the morning, in the evening, at the gym, or even a yoga studio. Love it!
  • Pilates. A core workout using a fast paced series of movements. I tried this once or twice and just wasn’t for me. However, I may try again someday. I do like the concept. Benefits are stronger, more sculpted muscles and gain flexibility.
  • Aerobics. A cardiovascular workout with lots of movement. Usually set to music, with the goal of improving all elements of fitness.
  • Sports. Swimming is another favorite of mine. So refreshing, and you’re actually using all your muscles while swimming. Volleyball, tennis, softball, basketball, the list goes on. Any sport you like is also a great work-out while having fun.
  • Remember to always check with your doctor before starting any new exercise program.

I only mentioned a few, but there are plenty more. Think about what you like and be realistic of what you can do. Research. Make it your mission to find an excercise program that you will enjoy. Like most chores, the hardest part is getting started. I used to trick myself in order to get started. I would tell myself, “Just do ten minutes.” Once started, I would easily go the full 30 minutes. So, be like Nike, and “Just Do It!”

Pampering is a Must

You owe it to yourself to take at least one day out of the week for pampering. No matter how hectic work has been, or whatever has you feeling stressed out, can all subside for a few hours one day a week, as you spend some time taking good care of you! Whether it’s a massage, a facial, doing your nails, getting your face waxed, or all of the above. It is essential to have at least one day of beauty to guarantee one beautiful day a week! You’ve earned it.

What it All Comes Down To

I hope these words of advice has opened you up to a new beginning for your life after forty and you will come back often. I would like to be of help in any way I can. Looking back, I can now see how young 40 really is. I am currently 55, so I do know a thing or two on this subject and I wouldn’t lie to you. Besides being the new twenty, by taking good care, and appreciating all you have been through, you will continue to be young for many more years to come. With or without children.

It’s all up to you. Life after forty is a new beginning. We have the power to change what we don’t like and appreciate more of what we do like. We can change our thoughts as easily as we can change our hair style, clothes and fitness routine. Life is all about the choices we make, and life after forty is about making better decisions and taking action to create the life we want to live! We’ve been through the trial and error ages, so hopefully, now it will all start to make sense. I still believe there is a reason for everything. Maybe you’re the reason I’m writing this now?

We are older, but with age comes wisdom. I just want to share some of mine with you. If you have any questions, or have something you would like to share, please feel free to do so. You can leave a comment in the box below.

I remember hitting the panic button at forty, and now I find it funny. There really is nothing to panic about! The menfolk got this one right, and we should follow their example, and just play like we did yesterday!


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Is Your Closet Autumn Ready?

This weekend will probably be our last warm days here in Chicago. Today we reached 79 degrees with sunshine as a bonus! I know, we’re late, but that’s okay. We don’t mind except….

When do we start to switch out our clothes from Summer to Autumn? This ever-changing weather we are having is making this a bit difficult. Warm one day, and cold the next. So, I decided to do this is spurts. I start with items I know I won’t be needing til next year. For me, this was swim suits. The pool actually stayed open late this year, but as soon as it closed I put them away and filled the drawer with scarfs, hats and gloves. Next I put away all the bright colored clothes and left the darker ones for the warm Fall nights. I put away the shorts, but saved a couple pairs just in case. I brought out sweaters that range from light to medium warmth, and those corduroy pants. Can save those big, chunky sweaters for Winter.

Having a flexible wardrobe to choose from is so helpful when ‘getting ready’ to start my day. I don’t have time to search for items I need now! And I really don’t like starting my day frantically looking for things, it’s enough just to find my phone and keys.

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